THIS EXACTLY THIS.
i love the idealism here since it manages to get an unintentional point across. there are outspoken feminists and people who claim to be feminists who speak openly of how much they hate men or want to subvert them. it doesn’t take many statements that carry the feminist banner to make the entire movement seem like a safe haven for hatred and contempt.
this problem is related to the no-true-scotsman fallacy in that if we pretend that those people do not speak for feminism, we will lose face because of them. it’s an unfortunate truth for all feminists that we have to manage our public image and talk down those who treat feminism as a justification for bigotry of any kind.
the name of “feminism” is worth protecting. if we give it up to take on a purely “egalitarian” philosophy, we lose the spirit and truth of the movement, that those who identify as female and that which is feminism need to be brought to a place of respect, acceptance, and celebration.
so, what i’m saying is, don’t pretend you don’t know where it comes from just because it shouldn’t be happening. we have a two front war, and we have ground to win back. being silent is to our detriment.
"[She’s] an Irish immigrant and "lady of the night" who turns tricks yet also faces a crippling disease, she doesn’t adhere to Victorian etiquette and acting appropriate, even though the underworld of that era is perverse and mad. She behaves like a lad, so even though the corset kind of straps you up, it was good to be loose in it."
Billie Piper on Brona Croft
David Bowie as Thomas Jerome Newton in “The Man Who Fell to Earth” (1976)
"I like that I stick out. I was watching “Valentine’s Day” on the plane recently. I have a tiny part in that movie. I was watching all the women — Jessica Biel, and Emma Roberts, and Jennifer Garner and Julia Roberts. They are gorgeous women, and I don’t want to take anything away from them, but they all do have a very classical look, with a very thin nose. I’m watching this parade of these faces and then, boom, it was my face, and I was taken aback. I was like, “Oh, my nose is so big!” I have never in my life thought I had a big nose, but, well, there it was.
The first time I was on TV, on “Flight of the Conchords,” someone put up a YouTube clip and said, “You’re too ugly to be on TV.” And I was like, “That is exactly why it’s a good thing that I’m on TV.” - Kristen Schaal, goddess
Feminism is having a wardrobe malfunction.
Does your brand of feminism remove barriers for women, or simply move them around? Does is expand options for women, or does it just shift them? You don’t liberate women by forcing them to choose option B instead of option A. What is comfortable for you might not be comfortable for someone else, and it’s entirely possible that what you see as oppressive, other women find comfortable or even downright liberating.
Before you think the girl in the middle is a strawman, let me tell you I used to be her, back in my misguided youth. I considered myself the standard to which other people should adhere. But that was stupid. It’s not up to me to tell people how to dress, and it’s much nicer to let everyone choose for themselves.
Some women would feel naked without a veil. Some women would find it restrictive. Some women would feel restricted by a bra. Some women would feel naked without one. Some women would feel restricted by a tight corset. Others love them. Some wear lots of clothes with a corset. Some only wear the corset and nothing else. What makes any article of clothing oppressive is someone forcing you to wear it. And it’s just as oppressive to force someone not to wear something that they want to wear.pretty much